GABANNA

Assholes > Nice Guys?

Every girl has cried over a guy wondering “why doesn’t he like me?”

Every girl has also turned down the one guy who actually cares about her because “I just don’t like him like that.”

So why do we put ourselves through the torture of dating these douchebags when we have an almost perfect guy who wants us?

I have no freaking clue.

Why do we want what we can’t have?

I have a guy in my life who every girl would dream of dating. Jamie is witty, sweet, makes me laugh and loves Dolce (gotta love the best friends). BUT I “just don’t like him like that.” Why you may ask? There are a few con’s to his long list of pro’s, but the bottom line is I could never see myself being with him in the future.

Let’s face it. As much as we all concentrate on “living in the present” and “YOLO,” most of us want to settle down eventually. Even though we all love going to the bar and having those one night hookups we still are constantly thinking about when we’re going to meet “the one.”

My asshole and my nice guy

Over the summer I was talking to Chuck and Jamie. Ideally Chuck was everything I wanted in a potential boyfriend: he was funny, good-looking and had a steady “grown-up” job as I like to call them. Jamie had the personality I loved, but not the ambition. But whereas it would take Chuck hours to answer me, Jamie and I would keep the conversation flowing all day long. He was the last person I would text when I went to sleep and the first text I would see in the morning, besides Dolce’s texts demanding that I wake up so we could go to the beach.

Everyone wants what they can’t have. Jamie was always there waiting for me and would answer me within seconds of me texting him. Chuck would take forever to answer my messages and it was impossible for us to meet up because of our opposite schedules, and lack of effort on his part. I loved hanging out with Jamie but was willing to ditch him when Chuck said that he was available since it was so hard to get together; he was the one I could see myself having a future with even though I liked Jamie more. Chuck never tried and I would constantly ask myself why I would keep trying to make an effort to see him when he never really did. He would never make plans and was “awful with his phone” (his words) but he would always tell me how much he liked me which was why I think I tried for so long.

I Want You to Want Me

With Jamie everything was natural. I was extremely open and honest with him about everything and I lied to Chuck about my goals and dreams which should have tipped me off immediately that I didn’t really like him. I just wanted to.

No one should put that amount of effort I did into liking a person. If they want to be with you they will try to make plans with you. It doesn’t matter how much they say they like you, they need to prove it.

Moral of the Story

-A lot of people have become extremely materialistic when looking for a person they want to be with. We forget that the most important thing in a significant other is their character, personality and how they treat you.

-You know what you are looking for in a person. If you can’t be open and honest with them then they’re not right for you.

-Don’t force it. Liking someone just happens; it can’t be planned out.