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Reject the Rejects

Rejection is a hard thing. No one likes to be told they’re not liked. So how do you realize you’re being rejected? And how do you do it in a nice way? These are my thoughts.

I met this awesome guy one night while watching football at the bar. He was sweet, good-looking, and funny. I thought, wow I did good…until he stood up.

Now you can call me shallow but everyone has his or her own preferences.  Whether it’s their hair color, style, or shoe size, everyone gets a little shallow. With me, height is a BIG thing. Literally.

So how do you reject?

In most cases if you are close to a person or have been dating them (aka been on 3 dates or more) you should be honest. Sit them down and have a talk. We are all adults and that person deserves the truth. One of my best friends was dumped and he never told her why… it still continues to eat at her. Don’t be an asshole, just be honest.

Yes, sometimes honesty can be too harsh. I’ve used the “I need time on my own.” I’ve used the “I’m not ready to be with someone right now” and I’ve used the “This just isn’t working out for me.” If that’s the truth then say it! And if it's because you don’t want to say, "your nose is too big and I can’t pretend like it doesn’t bother me anymore"…use one of those lines.

But if they aren’t treating you right or they’re a douche bag to you when with friends, by all means BE HONEST. One of my guys was “falling for me and couldn’t stop thinking about me” but when it came to hanging with his friends he thought he was hot shit and I should be thankful he would even look at me. Vomit. No. So I told him the truth…doesn’t end well when you are brutally honest but hey, I’m right and it’ll hit him.

Say how you feel. Why regret never saying it? Especially when they’re a tool. It’s going to end anyway so what do you have to lose? My rule is: If they’re an asshole make them feel like an asshole. You’re better than that.

When you’re being rejected.

I’ve been rejected too and it sucks. But the great thing is Earth is overpopulated and there will be someone else that will fall at their knees for you. Here are some sucky signs of rejection:

1.     Their attitude changes. Remember that sweet guy? Whatever happened to him?

2.     Did you lose your phone? Not answering your texts or phone calls. And don’t keep calling…smells like desperation.

3.     When did you become so busy? They’re cancelling your plans and having a “tough” time trying to make time for you.

4.     Manners are gone. They don’t care what they say to you or how you feel. (Regardless of what they said in the past.)

As much as we try to change others and we hate not being liked, shit happens. But what I learned from this was not everyone is going to like you. There are over 7 billion people out there! Why let just one ruin your day. People that are petty and immature just want to get to you.

The best revenge is living well. When you show that you don’t care and you’re better off, who’s the last one laughing now?