GABANNA

Never Have I Ever Had a Valentine

I mean, obviously I’m not including the whole elementary school Valentine’s Day stuff. That doesn’t count. 

And yes, I am that person who goes into a store and starts cursing when she sees all of those red hearts everywhere. I am also that person who yells at the TV when happy couples come on, and I throw things when they show the loving boyfriend giving his girlfriend her pretty new present (I just threw a teddy bear at the Jared commercial. #singlegirlproblems). 

It just works out that I’m usually never dating anyone around Valentine’s Day, but I was once. Remember Chris? He “loved me but wasn’t in love with me?” Well that relationship ended a week before V-Day. Can you imagine the state I was in while dealing with my first heartbreak and all those damn commercials and hearts everywhere? Well, I don’t, because I was drunk for most of it. Kidding…but not really.

After he broke up with me I was completely miserable. I would go to class, nap, eat, and sleep some more. My friends had a hard time dragging me out, and I didn’t want to go because and I had absolutely no desire to be around all of those cute couples at that time. So with that fantastic holiday coming up and all of my friends at school going out and celebrating with their boyfriends/girlfriends, I did the most logical thing I could think of and hopped on a bus to see my family. 

Being around loved ones is important. I was lucky to have a great group of friends who were full of support, but I couldn’t stand seeing them so happy and in love when it felt like there was a hole in my chest. And yes, there is a silver lining after a breakup. After what felt like forever of dating douche bag guys, and nice guys who I just didn’t care about, I finally found someone that I really cared about. 

And now I’m going to share with you the most famous and most annoying quote that I know:

“Everything happens for a reason” 
As much as I hate this quote, we all know it’s true. Chris and I broke up and I (eventually) found a new guy that I really cared about. And yes, that didn’t work out either, but I learned a lot from both relationships.  So cheer up readers! Things will get better, even though it probably won’t be as fast as you want it to. 

Here are some helpful hints to distract you from reality, if only temporarily:

-Have an all girls (or boys) V-Day soiree- get dressed up, grab some friends, go out and do something fun. Dolce and I are spending our V-Day playing bouncy-house laser tag. Jealous?

-Be with friends. The only thing I wanted was to be alone and cry, but I had some friends drag me out and show me that I could still have fun, even with a broken heart.

-You don’t need to hook-up with anyone immediately after the break-up to be happy. Yeah, its fun and a distraction from your current heartbreak, but you could end up feeling worse than you did. Wait it out until you’re ready.

- Write. Let it all out. If you keep it all inside you’ll go crazy.