GABANNA
No
Photos Please
I’m very picky when it
comes to guys, and I usually don’t like settling for something when I know it’s
just going to be a waste of time. What can I say, I know what I like. Dolce
however, likes to experience things, and had been nagging me to give someone a
chance so they could “wine and dine me.” After much persuasion on her part (she
never would have stopped if I didn’t agree), I told her I would start giving
more people chances.
Over December I agreed
to help out my aunt by being a hostess at the catering hall where she was a
receptionist. My job basically consisted of greeting guests and directing them
to the room their event would be held in, all while freezing my butt off from
standing by the door. Once the guests were all in the correct rooms, I would
basically just hang out and get paid for it, so I didn’t complain.
Early one morning while
I was greeting guests I happened to notice one guy. Tall, pretty cute, dressed
in all black. Turns out he was the DJ for the event, and took an immediate
liking to me. He introduced himself as Rick, and immediately started talking
about himself. (bad sign). I found out that he taught martial arts, was 28, had
his own DJ company but gave it up because teaching was his passion. I also
found out that he had 3 cups of coffee because he was out until 4am for a
friend’s birthday, (but he doesn’t drink so he wasn’t nursing a hangover like I
was). Now while I found all of this very interesting, he did not once ask me
anything about myself, not even my name. Granted, I was wearing a nametag, but
still.
Another warning
sign: he didn’t
get my sarcasm. Since he taught martial arts I asked him if he could make me be
like a power ranger (really girls, who didn’t want to be the pink ranger?)
Instead of the witty answer I was expecting, I got a long explanation about how
martial arts is serious and not at all like the power-rangers. So much for
making a joke.
Throughout the party he
would come out occasionally and try talk to me. My boss was very strict, and
even though she was in her office I had to act busy. For example, if we were
talking and she came out I would direct him to the bathroom or tell him that he
could go smoke outside the front door. Right before he left he asked me for my
number. I had Dolce’s voice in my head saying “do ittttt,” so I gave it
to him. The worst that could happen was a bad date.
The second I checked my
phone I had a message from him “Hey, its Rick lol. Could you tell that I was
trying to hit on you?” Of course I did.
“Yeah I could tell
haha”
“Oh really? Cool. I’m
really attracted to you. You’re really cute.”
“Thanks.”
The rest of the day progressed
with texts from him such as “you’re really cute : )” or “I’m really excited to
take you out, you’re just so cute : )”. Yeah, you mentioned that. It’s
nice that you’re excited, but ask me some questions about myself.
We agreed to meet for
coffee two days later when he was done working (I don’t drink coffee, which I
did tell him, but apparently he was too busy noticing how cute I was). I wake
up the next day to a “good morning cutie : )” text. We talk for a little, and
then I get this: “Send me a pic.” What? New picture message: him shirtless.
Caption: “Just took this after my morning workout. Send me one!”
After recovering from
the initial shock of the message I sent it to Dolce. “No wayyyyy what a creep!”
Now it’s not like I’m against pictures, just not with guys I met less than 24
hours ago who didn’t even bother trying to get to know me and just saw me as a
cute face.
I replied back that I
didn’t send out my picture, and that I wanted to cancel our date. He wasn’t
happy about it, and I had to explain to him that sending out pictures was just
something I didn’t do, and if he had taken the time to get to know me, maybe he
would’ve learned that.
What you should have
learned from this:
-Don’t just talk about
yourself when getting to know someone, make sure to ask questions about the
other person. I’m sure you’re pretty fascinating, but it shows you’re
interested in the other person when you ask about them.
-Don’t just tell a girl
that she’s pretty. Of course it’s nice but if you keep saying it, it’s going to
lose meaning. Talk about other things you like about her, such as her funny
comments or her surprisingly good pool playing skills. Whatever you like about
her let her know. She’ll most likely return the favor.
-I knew in my gut that
we didn’t click right away. He didn’t understand my sense of humor, and that’s
really important to me. I did give him a try, but I knew that it wasn’t going
to go far.
